Kathy Caprino of Forbes magazine recently interviewed leadership expert and best-selling author Dr. Tim Elmore about how “we as parents are failing our children today – coddling and crippling them – and keeping them from becoming leaders they are destined to be.”
Here are 7 damaging parenting behaviors he said are keeping children from becoming leaders.
- We don’t let our children experience risk
Removing risk from their lives will likely cause high arrogance and low self-esteem
- We rescue too quickly
When we rescue too quickly and over-indulge our children with “assistance,” we remove the need for them to navigate hardships and solve problems on their own.
- We rave too easily
Raving too easily and disregarding poor behavior can lead children to learn to cheat, exaggerate and lie to avoid difficult reality.
- We let guilt get in the way of leading well
Your kids will get over disappointment but they wont get over the effects of being spoiled
- We don’t share our past mistakes
Share how you felt when you faced mistakes, what drove your actions, and the resulting lessons learned.
- We mistake intelligence, giftedness and influence for maturity
Intelligence is often used as a measurement of a child’s maturity, and as a result parents assume an intelligent child is ready for the world. That’s not the case.
- We don’t practice what we preach
Watch yourself in the little ethical choices that others might notice, because your kids will notice too.
You can read much more about these 7 behaviors and Dr. Tim Elmore at Forbes.com