Dear “TEENA”,
My school is hosting their annual winter dance. This will be my first dance to attend and I really want to go with this boy I recently met but don’t know how to approach him or what to say. This is all so new and I really don’t want to make things awkward so I need your advice asap!!
Meredith / Texas
Dear Meredith,
The first dance is super exciting but can be super terrifying at the same time. The best thing to consider is that you are not the only one experiencing these anxieties when it comes to approaching a potential date. I too have had to face this task and I have to say it was not near as scary as it seems. You have to remember that the boy is as nervous as you, so just make things casual and talk about the dance in order to get a feel for what he’s thinking. Asking him if he’s going is a good first approach. If he’s up for it, he will definitely be positive and this way the conversation can lead to the possibility of going together.
Don’t be afraid of rejection. Even though it’s not what we’re hoping for, I always feel giving your guy a way out without making things awkward is the best way to handle the first dance jitters. If he indicates he’s going, then you might mention how awesome it would be if you went together. If he’s not ok with that, you will get the vibe without facing a straight NO for an answer. Don’t forget, boys are just as nervous and can be at a loss for words due to a lack of experience so keep that in mind if things don’t go as planned.
My motto is to always go for what you want. HOW we go about things is the key. Keep things simple and genuine. Be yourself and try not to be nervous. Worst case scenario, you head to the dance with your girl friends and have a great time regardless of how your convo goes with that boy you had your mind set on. This is dance 1 with many more to come.
Have fun and dance the night away!
XOXO,
Teena
